Forget what she’s wearing. This post will have nothing to do with fashion and I don’t care.
This angers me BEYOND belief. This is complete and utter BULLSHIT.
Rihanna accompanied her boo to court yesterday, which was due to the speculation that Chris Brown may have not done his community service after brutally abusing Rihanna in 2009. It is under investigation that he may have been on a flight for a vacation during the time of his community service.
She even blew him a kiss from the front row of the courtroom. Really Rihanna? What are you trying to prove?
In a recent interview with Rolling Stone, where she admits to rekindling her romance with CB, she states “Even if it’s a mistake, it’s my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I’d rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it,” she said.
Okay so that’s the summary. Here’s what I have to say about it.
First, after what he did to Rihanna, and to fans worldwide, he can’t even just do his time and complete his community service? Really? Doesn’t he owe that to her and to us? You are just so rich and famous, you can’t bear to get your hands dirty? How many times are you going to get yourself into trouble with the law? After his fights with Drake, beating up Rihanna, and now this shit, do you really think he won’t do it again? Do you really think he’s changed? He is continuously proving to us that he hasn’t. All of these things are a reflection on his characater and to me, I’ve lost all respect for him, but yet, he still manages to get his fame back, his girl back, and his reputation back. That is not how it should be.
It seems the more money you have, the less you have to pay for your actions. You can get away with just about anything. Talk about morals. This country is fucked up. This court system is fucked up.
Now, if I hear one more guy or girl even, say that she deserved it, or that she probably hit him too, I’m going to lose it. HE’S ENTIRELY AT FAULT. The only reason he got so mad was because HE GOT CAUGHT with racy text messages between him and other random girls. I’m sorry, but doesn’t Rihanna or any girl for that matter have a right to be mad or upset? It’s called cheating. And HE’S the one whose so upset he has to beat her? Fuck that.
But apparently he has a right to according to Rihanna. Because going back to him is saying that you forgive him, and that it’s alright to get upset when you’re the one at fault. Going to court with him for not fulfilling his community service, (even though he should have been in JAIL) is showing that you are supporting the fact that he SHOULD NOT have to pay for what he did.
Now, I don’t care if Rihanna or any celebrity for that matter claims to not be a role model, or that they are not trying to be a role model but are just doing what they want. They are not responsible for what other girls around the world do. BULLSHIT. When you become famous, you automatically become an ICON, a ROLE MODEL to little girls and women even, worldwide, regardless of whether or not you want to be. Don’t like it? Don’t be so hungry for fame and money then because it’s not all chocolate and roses.
The media is responsible for why us girls are so insecure. This is why we try to be so perfect for all the men out there. I am a confident woman and have grown to become confident and not care what pepole think as I have gotten older. But most girls never do or they are still too young to realize that it’s okay to be happy in your own skin. When all you see in magazines, in movies, and on tv, is photoshopped boobs, hair extensions, etc., and hear all the guys gushing about this one’s boobs and this one’s ass, then we start to question our own bodies and what we can do to be “up to par.” We glorify women like Kim Kardashian who only got famous for being a whore. Is that all we are good for ladies? Looking good and having sex? I don’t think so.
So when we see Rihanna blowing kisses to Chris from the front row of court when he deserves to be there, we think that it’s okay if your boyfriend hits you. It’s okay to forgive him because love is more important.
Sorry honey, but that ain’t love. I couldn’t possibly love someone who turned into a monster when he was in the wrong in the first place. You sit here crying on tv when talking to Oprah about getting beat and now you’re supporting him for not paying his dues. Makes sense. Way to be strong.
The problem I see with girls and women today, is that they settle. They go back to men who cheat on them with their best friends. They go back to or stay with men who abuse them verbally and physically. They think they can’t do any better. They think they can’t find anyone else. They’re not strong enough to be alone. They think that they still love the person so that means they have to stay with them. They don’t know what true love is. They don’t know what confidence is.
I attribute this to the parents. Most parents are divorced today and that’s what kids grow up to see as their normalcy. This is all they know, so it continues generation after generation and that’s why you can probably only name 1 or 2 TRULY, HEALTHY and HAPPY relationships. It’s sad, really sad.
But it will continue to happen so long as women don’t start being stronger, knowing their worth, knowing that being single is MUCH better than being with someone you’re afraid of pissing off for no reason. It will keep happening unless women start realizing that being patient, and waiting for the right one instead of just anyone is okay.
Who says being in a relationship or married is the end all, be all? It’s time women start focusing on what THEY want out of life and going after that first. Once you are happy within yourself and lived your life the way you wanted to, a wonderful man WILL come along, I promise you, if that’s what you want in life.
We have to start setting examples for our little sisters and our best friends who may be inexperienced or naive. If he cheats, move on! If he lies, move on! If he makes you cry often, move on! If he screams and curses at you constantly, move on! If he hits you, move the hell on! And never look back. Because let me tell you, it’s how I’ve done things and I never have ANY baggage or drama. I’m always able to move forward with a new guy because I don’t have anything or anyone holding me back. I’m never hurting, crying constantly, or stressed.
You are beautiful and worth more than that. You deserve better than that.
Man, I have some friends of my own who are crying at the club because their boyfriend is talking to his ex right in front of her, (total disrespect), and telling girls he’s single when he’s clearly not. Next thing you know, they “can’t wait to spend the rest of their lives together” and calling each other wifey and hubby and it’s only been a few months.
If that’s love, I want no part of it. To me, that’s a big, fat joke. And girl, you are the laughingstock if you let it happen. You have no strength (like Rihanna), and he can get away with whatever he wants, because he knows you will be right there waiting to take him back with open arms. He gets to have his cake and eat it too. He’s in complete and utter control. Screwwwwww that.
It’s time to put an end to this madness and it starts with you, beautiful Fashion Feen reader of mine. Stay strong and if you need someone to talk to, e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org because I know it may not be as easy as it sounds. Thanks for reading.